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Rethinking Happiness: From Chasing Desires to Embracing Meaning

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In a world obsessed with hustle culture, social-media validation, and endless striving, true fulfillment often feels just out of reach. What if the secret isn’t in acquiring new goals but in letting go of old attachments? What if suffering—rather than something to avoid—holds the key to meaning?

Drawing on the wisdom of Harvard’s Arthur C. Brooks, Jordan Peterson, and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl, this post explores a counterintuitive truth:

Happiness isn’t a destination. It’s the byproduct of a meaningful life.


The Trap of Endless Wanting: Arthur C. Brooks’ Reverse Bucket List

Arthur C. Brooks, Harvard professor and co-author of Build the Life You Want, discovered that achieving every milestone on his bucket list didn’t deliver lasting satisfaction. He describes reaching his 50s with career prestige, financial stability, and global recognition—yet feeling surprisingly empty.

Why?
Because the brain is engineered for survival, not sustained bliss. Every achievement quickly becomes the new baseline, fueling the “hedonic treadmill.”

Brooks proposes a simple antidote: the reverse bucket list.

Instead of writing down what you want next, you list the desires that are controlling you—especially those tied to ego, comparison, and status.
Then you cross them out.

His formula explains why this works:
Satisfaction = (What You Have) / (What You Want)
Reduce the denominator, and satisfaction increases.

How to Make One

  1. Sit quietly and list 5–10 ego-driven wants.
  2. Strike through each, saying: “This no longer owns me.”
  3. Refocus on Brooks’ four stable pillars: purpose, family, friendship, and meaningful work.

As Brooks puts it:
“Intention is fine, but attachment is bad.”


The Four False Idols: Modern Substitutes for Fulfillment

Brooks draws from St. Thomas Aquinas to identify four distractions that distort our pursuit of happiness: money, power, pleasure, and fame. They appear promising because they satisfy old evolutionary drives—but they ultimately leave us emptier.

IdolCore DrivePitfallDetachment Tip
MoneySecurityEndless comparisonPractice daily gratitude.
PowerControlResentment & fearEmpower others.
PleasureEscapeShort-lived highsPair pleasure with purpose.
FameValidationExternal identityLimit metrics & comparison.

Identifying your dominant idol is the first step toward loosening its grip.


Jordan Peterson: Why Happiness Cannot Be the Goal

If Brooks offers gentle tools for detachment, Jordan Peterson offers stark realism:

“Life is suffering.”

In 12 Rules for Life, Peterson argues that happiness is too unstable to serve as a life’s aim. Pain lasts longer than pleasure, chaos is guaranteed, and the brain evolved to prioritize survival over joy.

What sustains us is not momentary happiness but responsibility.

Peterson’s philosophy condenses into six practical principles:

  1. Aim high at something noble.
  2. Take responsibility—begin with manageable order (“clean your room”).
  3. Confront suffering instead of avoiding it.
  4. Tell the truth, including uncomfortable truths about yourself.
  5. Serve others to escape self-absorption.
  6. Commit to the good, even when the world feels irrational.

A bridge to Frankl

Peterson’s core insight mirrors an older philosophical truth:
Suffering is universal—and meaning is what transforms it.

This sets the stage for Viktor Frankl.


Viktor Frankl: Meaning as Humanity’s Lifeline

Viktor Frankl, Jewish psychiatrist and Auschwitz survivor, developed logotherapy, a system built on the idea that humans are driven not by pleasure (Freud) or power (Adler), but by meaning.

In Man’s Search for Meaning, Frankl observes that those who endured the camps were often those who held onto a purpose—future work, a loved one, or a belief worth suffering for.

Frankl identifies three sources of meaning:

  1. Creation — contributing or building something.
  2. Experience — love, beauty, nature, art.
  3. Attitude — choosing your response to suffering.

One of his most influential tools is paradoxical intention, a technique where you intentionally exaggerate the fear or symptom causing anxiety.
By leaning into it, the fear loses its power.

Simplified Example

  • Insomnia: attempting to stay awake rather than trying to force sleep, which removes pressure and allows sleep to return naturally.

Frankl also emphasizes dereflection (shifting attention away from the self) and Socratic dialogue (questioning your beliefs to uncover deeper meaning). These tools help people navigate grief, trauma, and existential despair with dignity and agency.


A Unified Path Forward

Together, Brooks, Peterson, and Frankl offer a three-step blueprint for a meaningful life:

1. Want less.
Detach from ego-driven desires (Brooks).

2. Carry something.
Take responsibility for something that matters (Peterson).

3. Transform suffering.
Choose your attitude and meaning (Frankl).

The world in 2025 may feel chaotic, but meaning is always available. Frankl survived unimaginable suffering by envisioning a future rooted in purpose. We cannot choose our circumstances, but we can always choose our response.


Your Turn: A Simple Reflection to Begin Today

Take a moment and answer:

1. What’s one desire you can strike off your reverse bucket list today?
2. What’s one responsibility you can embrace this week that moves you toward meaning?

Share your reflection below—your insight may help someone else begin their journey too.

Engaged, Then Drifting Away: Watching Dude in the OTT Age

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I watched Dude on Netflix, got fully pulled in, and then slowly drifted away. The first half felt fresh and familiar; the second half drowned in twists and moral weight. This is less a review and more a look at what Dude reveals about where mainstream South Indian cinema stands in the OTT age.


I watched Dude on Netflix and realised my own reaction mirrored the film’s treatment of its characters — I leaned in, got involved, and then slowly drifted away.

For a good stretch, I was engaged. The energy felt contemporary, the situations recognisable, the performances easy to invest in. And then the film started doing what a lot of mainstream South Indian cinema does when it runs out of discipline but still wants an emotional high:

  • inconsistent characterisation,
  • unnecessary twists,
  • a dragging second half,
  • and a slightly helpless attempt to force a denouement before the runtime expires.

This post is less a formal “review” and more a reflection: why did Dude hook me initially and then lose me, and what does that say about where our cinema is right now?


Where Dude Worked for Me

To be fair, Dude gets several things right in the first half.

  • The world feels familiar. The college/youth environment, the conversations, the casual banter — this is not the old template of cardboard classmates waiting for a hero entry. It feels closer to the people you actually know.
  • Pradeep Ranganathan’s presence helps. He has that “I’ve met this guy in real life” quality. As a slightly confused, overthinking protagonist, he fits the part without trying too hard to be a “mass hero.”
  • The humour is loose, not forced. The film doesn’t rely only on punch dialogues. There are stretches where the interactions feel like natural extensions of how urban youth talk today.
  • The music is sticky. You can see why the songs travelled independently. They carry mood, they add momentum, and they are clearly engineered for a reel-first world.

At this stage, I was perfectly willing to accept the usual commercial liberties.

Mainstream South Indian cinema has always had an unwritten deal with the audience:

You give me energy and emotion; I’ll forgive your shortcuts with logic, probability, and geography.

For a while, Dude honours that contract.


Where It Started Losing Me

The slip happens when the film tries to scale up from “relatable youth rom-com” to “heavy social drama” — and wants to cover love, guilt, abortion, family honour and redemption in the same breath.

That’s when the cracks start to show.

1. Characterisation that bends to the plot

I don’t mind a story taking liberties with events. But I do mind when it takes liberties with core motivations.

Several key decisions in the second half feel like this:

  • A character behaves in one way in a scene, and almost the opposite way a little later, without enough inner transition.
  • Pivotal choices feel less like “this is who they are” and more like “this is what the screenplay needs right now.”

This is where I felt the inconsistent characterisation most strongly.
It’s as if the film updates its people like software patches: “From this point onwards, this character will now behave like X.”

When the stakes are low and the tone is light, audiences forgive this.
But once the story moves into serious territory, it stops feeling like masala and starts feeling like emotional laziness.


2. Twists that dilute, not deepen

Commercial South Indian cinema loves escalation. The standard ladder is: small problem → bigger problem → massive problem → only-our-hero-can-fix-it resolution.

When done well, this creates that “whistle and clap” experience.

In Dude, the escalations started to resemble a staircase that never quite reaches a landing:

  • Secret relationship
  • Consequences of that relationship
  • Family pressure and moral panic
  • High-stakes decisions
  • Rescue attempts, staged and real
  • Fresh resets and new beginnings

By themselves, none of these elements are new. We’ve seen them across decades.

The problem is how quickly they stack up and how little time is spent letting any one of them truly sink in. After a point, I found myself no longer asking “Why are they doing this?” and only tracking “Okay, what next?”

That’s not engagement; that’s survival.


3. Runtime vs. emotional bandwidth

There is a specific late-second-half sensation which many of us recognise now: you can feel the film is running out of time, but it still has too many unresolved threads.

That’s exactly how Dude felt in its final portions:

  • Scenes that needed silence and processing are rushed.
  • Scenes that could have been handled in a couple of beats are stretched out for extra drama.
  • The ending feels less like the natural consequence of everything and more like a set of fixes assembled under deadline.

This is where I sensed the “helpless effort to push things towards a denouement” most clearly. The film doesn’t so much land as scramble to a halt.


The Mainstream South Indian “Liberties” – And Why They’re Not Enough Anymore

To be clear, none of this is unique to Dude. It is operating within a well-established grammar.

Mainstream South Indian cinema has traditionally thrived on:

  • Big emotional spikes rather than consistent arcs
  • Convenient coincidences and plot armour
  • Song placements as shortcuts for developing relationships
  • Tonal shifting — comedy, melodrama, social message and “hero moments” in the same film

By these standards, Dude actually delivers:

  • It has high-energy moments.
  • It attempts to touch on socially loaded themes.
  • It offers enough drama to make a single-theatre audience feel they “got their money’s worth.”
  • The box office response shows it connected commercially.

So why did I, and many like me, feel engaged initially and then drift away?

I suspect the answer lies not only in the film, but in how our viewing habits have evolved.


When OTT Discipline Meets Theatrical Liberty

Most of us who watch Dude on Netflix are straddling two worlds:

  1. We grew up on mainstream South Indian cinema, with all its liberties and excesses.
  2. We now binge finely crafted shows and films from everywhere, where character consistency and structural discipline are much tighter.

That creates a new internal benchmark, even if we don’t consciously articulate it.

When a film looks and sounds contemporary, and positions itself close to our lives:

  • We stop accepting soap-opera logic so easily.
  • We expect serious themes like guilt, abortion, or honour to be treated with more nuance.
  • We notice when characters are moved like chess pieces instead of behaving like people.

It’s not that we have suddenly become “anti-masala.”
We still enjoy heightened emotion and big moments.

But:

The emotional math has to add up.
The liberties can no longer hide thin writing.

In that sense, Dude feels like a transition product of its time — ambitious in intent, familiar in craft, and caught between two audience expectations.


My Simple Test While Watching

Lately, I unconsciously apply one simple test to films like this:

Do I care more about the people than about the plot?

  • In the first half of Dude, I cared about the people.
  • Somewhere in the second half, that shifted. I caught myself watching the plot, not the characters.

Once that happens, every twist feels like a trick, and every liberty feels like a shortcut.

That, for me, is the real missed opportunity of Dude.
Not that it is “bad” — it clearly works for many viewers — but that it had enough going for it to be much more than a mixed experience.


Key Takeaways (for me)

  • Liberties are acceptable; dishonesty isn’t.
    I can accept cinematic exaggeration, but not when character motivations bend carelessly to fit a twist.
  • More twists ≠ more engagement.
    Emotional investment comes from depth, not volume. When everything is high-stakes, nothing truly feels high-stakes.
  • Our viewing baseline has changed quietly.
    OTT exposure has made audiences more sensitive to inconsistency, even when we still enjoy big, commercial cinema.
  • Dude reflects a larger shift.
    It’s one of many recent films trying to combine instant gratification with “serious” themes, but without always doing the structural hard work that the newer audience silently expects.

Where to Watch

At the time of writing, Dude is available to stream on Netflix.

It’s worth a watch if you’re curious about where mainstream South Indian cinema currently stands — halfway between old masala instincts and new OTT expectations.
The interesting part is not just whether you like it, but when you start to drift away… or if you do at all.


Borderline Professionals and the AI-Powered Kriya Shakti

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Most people assume creativity belongs only to experts. But a silent category exists between amateurs and full-fledged professionals—the borderline professionals. These are individuals who have the desire to create, and just enough basic skill to understand what they want, yet they struggle to execute.

Today, AI changes that equation.


The Ancient Framework That Explains Modern AI

In the Lalita Sahasranama, creation is rooted in three forces:

  1. Ichha Shakti — the deep desire or will
  2. Jnana Shakti — the knowledge or understanding
  3. Kriya Shakti — the power to execute

In my book Directing Business, I highlighted how these three powers capture the entire arc of creation. Most people possess the first, many have some version of the second, but very few have the third.

This is where AI steps in—not as a replacement for human skill, but as the missing Kriya Shakti that unlocks execution.


Who Are Borderline Professionals?

Borderline professionals are not amateurs. They are not novices. They are people who:

  • Have a genuine desire to create
  • Possess basic foundational knowledge
  • Can articulate what they want
  • But get stuck when it’s time to execute

They often sit on ideas for years—songs they wanted to compose, books they wanted to write, companies they wanted to start, designs they always imagined but never completed.

Their limitation is almost always Kriya Shakti—the ability to translate intent and knowledge into a finished creation.


AI Completes the Creation Triangle

If you possess:

  • Ichha (desire)
  • Jnana (basic understanding)

AI now gives you:

  • Kriya (execution superpower)

This shifts the creative world in a fundamental way. AI does not magically inject expertise into you.
Instead, it amplifies your minimum viable expertise.

In other words:
If you can imagine it and understand it at a basic level, AI can help you build it.


Real Examples of Borderline Creators Becoming Real Creators

1. Writing & Storytelling

People who always wanted to write but struggled with structure or flow can now produce full essays, chapters, and scripts. AI becomes the co-author that takes their intent and shapes it into polished work.

2. Music & Composition

A person who can hum a tune or grasp rhythm but lacks musical training can now generate full compositions, lyrics, and studio-quality tracks.

3. Entrepreneurship

Someone with a startup idea but no experience in planning, pitching, or prototyping can now generate:

  • business plans
  • branding
  • pitch decks
  • landing pages
  • even early product mockups

In short, AI provides the scaffolding for company creation.

4. Multimodal Creativity

Text → Images → Video → Audio → Apps
With modern multimodal AI, the entire pipeline of creativity becomes accessible—even if the individual has never been trained formally.


The Big Insight: Skill Is Not Dead—It Is Amplified

You still need some Jnana Shakti—some grasp of your domain. AI cannot replace absolute ignorance.

But the amount of knowledge needed to start has dramatically dropped.

Earlier, you needed 100% skill to get 100% output.
Now, even with 20–30% knowledge, AI multiplies your ability to produce a finished work.

This is the true empowerment.


Why This Is the Best Time for Borderline Professionals

For the first time in history:

  • You don’t need a studio to compose.
  • You don’t need a publisher to write.
  • You don’t need a team to launch a startup.
  • You don’t need a design degree to create visuals.
  • You don’t need a production crew to make videos.

If you have deep desire (Ichha) and basic understanding (Jnana), AI gives you Kriya at a never-before scale.

This makes today the most powerful era for borderline professionals—those who were always “almost there,” waiting for a catalyst.


Conclusion

Creativity no longer belongs only to the trained elite. It belongs to anyone with the will to create and the willingness to learn just enough to guide AI.

AI completes the Ichha–Jnana–Kriya triad.
It transforms borderline professionals from dreamers into doers, and from doers into creators.

The door is open wider than ever.
And if you’ve always stood just outside it—this is your moment to walk through.


Infographic based on this article (using Nana Banana Pro)